What are friends for, besides the obvious telling you about the large green chunk of food between your teeth, listening to you when you complain about the fact your significant other never takes out the trash, or dishing dirt on the latest celebrity gossip? Well in my world they serve the following purposes:
To notice my change in hair color and complement it with adjectives like hot and sexy.
To pick out a new accessory I’m wearing and ask where I got it, appreciate its stylish flare, and celebrate the fact it was only $14.99 at Target.
To compare notes on the previous night’s American Idol performances.
To sing the full libretto of Rent while imbibing “one last drink.”
To provide advice, counsel and insight on just about everything from a fashion ensemble to content for my latest project.
To help wipe snot from my toddler’s nose when my hands are full with the baby, a bottle, a binky, a snack, a diaper, a wipe, and a chai latte.
To lend me a book because she knows I will relish every word, just as she did.
I am blessed in life with many such friends for whom I am thankful for everyday. But today I need to give props to one in particular…The ridiculously creative, talented, passionate and rock solid, Laura Lee. She has been my dear friend for years, but recently she has been invaluable to me, for many reasons.
Her son Lucas was born 6 days after Lexi (though he looks like he’s Lily’s age) so we have been able to share the joys, fears, insecurities, frustrations and overwhelming happiness that accompanies the first year of a child’s life.
Also, she too is a member of “the Club” and has been my sounding board, design guru and overall traveling companion along my book project journey. Yesterday we met for lunch to catch up and to disucss design elements for the book. With her she brought a book she just finished reading by Anne Lamott called Operating Instructions, which is a non-fiction work about the first year of her son’s life. It is AMAZING! I’m already half-way through it and I highly recommend it for any mom who has recently (or not so recently) had a child. Lamott is candid, crass, honest and raw. I have read several of her fictional works like Rosie, Hard Laughter, and Crooked Little Heart, but I have never read her non-fiction works for which she is most famous.
So I love this book and am wondering why I’m not using the kids’ nap right now to be reading instead of typing but I fee compelled to write this right now.
Not only do I resonate with Lamott’s writing’s about her experience as a mother, but I also connect to her on another level…Anne Lamott is a member of “The Club.” She discusses her grief throughout the book and how it permeates various aspects of her life. I am now on a mission to get Anne Lamott somehow involved with my book project. I don’t know how I’m gonna do it, but I’m gonna do it. Just watch me go…
But now back to my friend: Thank you LL Cool J, my dear friend who inspires me and encourages me. This poem, inspired by the delightful Dr. Seuss, is for you:
Oh the Wonderful Things She Can Do:
She can act, she can sing, she can do anything
She can write, she can draw, she can paint on a wall.
she can work, wife, and blog and be an awesome mom.
Oh, the wonderful things she can do. She can do it all and be an awesome friend too.
Check out her hilarously honest and sharply written blog – We Sit By Fire and her crazy good artistry at Lolly Lava Ink.