Trigger Happy Mama

And no, I’m not talking about Sarah Palin…  nor am I talking about the “stick ’em up bang bang” kind of trigger.  I mean me the set you off, make you mad and take you from A to Z kind of trigger.

A few months ago I attended a company meeting in which the guest speaker spoke of triggers.  He defined trigger as “stimulus that sets off an immediate and mostly unconscious reaction.”  Yes, I took notes, I’m a dork.  So we were in groups of 5 at small round tables and were given the assignment of writing down our own personal triggers.  I went to town, writing swiftly, barely able to get all my thoughts out in the allotted time.  Then, guess what, we had to share them with our table mates.  I was lucky enough to have Polyanna, Mary Poppins, Carol Brady, and Mr. Rogers seated at my table.  So Polyanna starts and only has ONE item her list… “Lying” she says.  And I think…”Liar!”   Nothing really makes her mad except people that are dishonest.   Hmmph.  Then comes Mary Poppins…she has “pessimistic people and rude people” on her list.  Of course she does.

Around the table we went and as each person shared their list of one or two items, I looked down at my list of 25 things and thought to myself, okay people, I took this exercise seriously. When it came my turn to share I embraced my trigger-happy-list and read off only 6 items, sparing the gang it’s entirety.  But then, wouldn’t you know it…I was called upon by Mr. Motivational Speaker to share my list with THE ENTIRE GROUP.  So not only did I have to share my personal list with the Sunshine Gang, but then I had to air my proverbial dirty laundry to the entire company.  It’s all a blur…I think I told a few jokes and sang “Shoop”to distract them.  Then I rattled off my list

When my toddler whines and wants something “now”

When my husband whines and says “I’ll do it tomorrow”

When people drive too slow (when I’m tailgating them)

When people drive too fast and tailgate me

When the commercials aren’t muted  (by my husband)

When people are late (namely my husband)

When my voice recognition thinks I say “Call Amy” when I said “Call Mom”  – how do those things even sound alike???

So what I walked away with from that meeting was 1) there are A LOT of things that annoy me (tune in for future blog on 1001 things that bug me) 2) I shouldn’t let things bother me as much 3) and now that I know what bothers me, that is half the battle – right!

I also came away with his business card – on the back of the card is the following quote.  I now carry it with me in my wallet…

I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.  It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather.

I posses tremendous power to make a life miserable or joyous.  I can be a tool of torture, or an instrument of inspiration.

I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.  In all situations, it is my response decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated, and a person humanized or dehumanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

– Goethe –


Sunday night heebies

Tonight I am lamenting the three hours of my life that I lost watching the Chargers lose to the Saints (Bring Back Brees!).  I will shake off the heebies by thinking ahead to the Madonna concert and the unprecedented election coming up in 9 days!  Go Barack!

“What are you waiting for no one is going to show you how.  Why wait for someone else to do what you can do right now?”

Madonna – “Give it to Me”- Hard Candy

tears and applause

I have a heavy heart tonight so won’t write much.  Today I: attended the lovely memorial service for Newman Porter, got an email from a dear friend that her brother-in-law, Lt. Colonel Tom Mazzella, passed away today, and was then “invited” to join a group on Facebook that was created in memory of a friend of mine, Petar Perisic, who passed away last week.  Phew…that’s a lot for a heart to take all in day.

Three very different but all very amazing men.  A fun-loving scholar, a war hero and a kind-hearted gentle “giant”.  My heart goes out to all of their families, tonight and in the days and weeks to come.

On a happy note…I also had a lot that made me smile…

1) A run at the beach – WSAW (with sweatshirt around waist – see previous blog entry) – lycra capris are not forgiving in bright sunlight

2) Lexi relieving herself with a LOUD belch in the middle of the Lord’s Prayer at the service

3) A phone call from BFF Mariana from New York who is flying out to go to Madonna with me (Election Day woo hoo!)

4) Lily helping me make mac n’ cheese from scratch (yes, I was very traumatized by the Yoga incident)

5) Michael and new HR gal hooking up on The Office

6) Recieving an email from a friend of a friend about my book project

Life, death, joy and sadness…all in a day’s work.

Before signing off I’ll leave you with a quote from the Minister today…

“Tears are the applause of the love and laughter we’ve shared”.   No wonder I love tears.